Dating women who are separated
Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
Hell, you’re even a risk if you’re just out of a divorce and want to “play the field”.
Sounds to me, Pat, like you’re a decent man who might not even be fully aware of what your needs are. I’ve had terrible experiences dating a separated man who wasn’t ready to date — but it wasn’t his fault (entirely).
I was the one who ignored all the obvious signs he wasn’t ready.
I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.
What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.